Matthew 12:46-50
While he was still
speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside,
asking to speak to him. But he replied to the man who told him, "Who is my
mother, and who are my brothers?" And stretching out his hand toward his
disciples, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does
the will of my Father in heaven is my brother, and sister, and mother."
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Who do you love and
cherish the most? God did not intend for us to be alone, but to be with others.
He gives us many opportunities for developing relationships with family,
friends, neighbors, and co-workers. Why does Jesus seem to ignore his own
relatives when they pressed to see him? His love and respect for his mother and
his relatives is unquestionable. Jesus never lost an opportunity to teach his
disciples a spiritual lesson and truth about the kingdom of God. On this
occasion when many gathered to hear Jesus he pointed to another higher reality
of relationships, namely our relationship with God and with those who belong to
God.
What is the essence
of being a Christian? It is certainly more than doctrine, precepts, and
commandments. It is first and foremost a relationship – a relationship of
trust, affection, commitment, loyalty, faithfulness, kindness, thoughtfulness,
compassion, mercy, helpfulness, encouragement, support, strength, protection,
and so many other qualities that bind people together in mutual love and unity.
God offers us the greatest of relationships – union of heart, mind, and spirit
with himself, the very author and source of love. God's love never fails, never
forgets, never compromises, never lies, never lets us down nor disappoints us.
His love is consistent, unwavering, unconditional, and unstopable. Nothing can
deter him from ever leaving us, ignoring us, or treating us unkindly. He will
love us no matter what. It is his nature to love. That is why he created us –
to be united with him and to share in his love and unity of persons. God is a
trinity of persons – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit – and a community of love.
That is why Jesus challenged his followers and even his own earthly relatives
to recognize that God is the true source of all relationships. God wants all of
our relationships to be rooted in his love.
Jesus is God's love
incarnate – God's love made visible in human flesh. That is why Jesus describes
himself as the good shepherd who lays down his life for his sheep and the
shepherd who seeks out the sheep who have strayed and lost their way. God is
like the father who yearns for his prodigal son to return home and then throws
a great party for his son when he has a change of heart and comes back. Jesus
offered up his life on the cross for our sake, so that we could be forgiven and
restored to unity and friendship with God. It is through Jesus that we become
the adopted children of God – his own sons and daughters. That is why Jesus
told his disciples that they would have many new friends and family
relationships in his kingdom. Whoever does the will of God is a friend of God
and a member of his family – his sons and daughters who have been ransomed by
the precious blood of Christ.
An early Christian
martyr once said that "a Christian's only relatives are the saints" –
namely those who have been redeemed by the blood of Christ and adopted as sons
and daughters of God. Those who have been baptized into Jesus Christ and who
live as his disciples enter into a new family, a family of "saints"
here on earth and in heaven. Jesus changes the order of relationships and shows
that true kinship is not just a matter of flesh and blood. Our adoption as sons
and daughters of God transforms all of our relationships and requires a new
order of loyalty to God first and to his kingdom of righteousness and peace. Do
you want to grow in love and friendship? Allow God's Holy Spirit to transform
your heart, mind, and will to enable you to love freely and generously as he
loves.
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"Heavenly
Father, you bless us with many relationships and you invite us into the
community of your sons and daughters who have been redeemed by your son, Jesus
Christ. Help me to love my neighbor with charity, kindness, compassion, and
mercy, just as you have loved me. In all of my relationships, and in all that I
do and say, may I always seek to bring you honor and glory."
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